How the funeral photographer works

Funeral photography is just one of many things to consider in a very short period of time so I have adopted a simple, four-step approach.

The first step

A key family member, or the funeral home, contacts me to determine my availability.

The second step

I contact the family representative to find out what they would like photographed (family groups, the committal, the viewing). I then suggest a suitable funeral photography package. The family representative then completes the Order form.

The third step

On the day of the funeral, I meet the family representative briefly prior to the funeral service and confirm what is required to be photographed. I then photograph the funeral with the utmost discretion.

The final step

Within two days of the funeral**, in a private area on my website,  selected photos are published. This allows the family to share the funeral with family and friends and also those who were unable to attend the funeral in person.

I then design the Remembrance Book. Often the family provide tributes and eulogies for inclusion in the book.

When the Remembrance Book design is finalised, payment is requested. The book(s) will generally be available within four weeks following payment.

**(Or one week, depending on the photography package chosen.)

John Slaytor

About the Funeral Photographer

John Slaytor has photographed funerals since 2007.

A professional photographer, John Slaytor’s photography has been purchased by Australia’s major institutions including the National Portrait Gallery, the National Library of Australia and the State Library of NSW.

An acclaimed photographer, John Slaytor has been in Australia’s  most prestigious photography competitions including the National Photographic Portrait Prize, the Olive Cotton Prize and the Moran Photographic Prize.

Briefly, About my work

"I don't want photos, you know, of people looking puffy eyed!"

This was said to me by a future client who wanted someone to record the funeral of her father as she had many relatives overseas who couldn't come. She wanted to record the funeral for her relatives but she was still hesitant.

Don't confuse funeral photography with weddings! Having a photographer to record your funeral is a totally different thing. It's still early days yet, and yes, people are often surprised when they put the words "funeral" and "photographer" together.

So, back to me. When I began photographing at funerals back in 2007 (for my own grandmother's funeral) I never realised just how important and moving the process of photography could be for families. Often families haven't seen each other in a big group for ages, if not years. Life goes on, families live overseas, children grow up. A loved one dies and the impulse to gather together, the practical need to have a funeral, takes priority.

At a funeral people are at their most beautiful when they are being kind to one another. Barriers are lowered and tenderness rises. Everyone is human for a day. You can still laugh and be happy at a funeral. You can remember the person's life. Even the funeral of a young person can be a time of tempered joy. You weep and hug one another but you remember the vitality and vigour of the youth. For an elderly person it can often be a relief that they're no longer in pain, or in the nursing home. You can join together to remember the person they once were. The person who will live on in your memory. I record these moments of shared intimacy and genuine emotion.

Once the images are taken, selecting the images gives a bereaving family a purpose and given there is no restriction on the number of images in the book, it is a very inclusive process. One family member commented that when he received the book it had brought the family together. He continued, "Our extended family had split in two and the book played a part in healing the rift between the families. Just by having the two families in the one book had an impact."

Another widow once rang me during the book design process to ask if she could include an image I hadn’t taken that was precious to her as it was a photo of her and her husband and friends a year before her husband died. I had no problem. I welcomed her suggestion as I very much want families to understand it is their book. Sometime later she said the family had discussed the image and decided it shouldn’t be in the book. This is a small point but to me is indicative of how the family (not just the widow) had taken ownership of the book and I think in doing so, made it part of the healing process. Often the books have photographs of the person when they were young, or at their wedding, or holding their first grandchild, or doing something they loved.

Another woman told me that it had taken her over a year before she could even look at the book. It wasn't that it was too sad, it was just that with having to deal with the day-to-day issues of selling her father's house, clearing it out, sorting out the paperwork, a year flew by. She said it was great to be able to see what had actually taken place during the funeral as she had no memory of it at all!

I photographed another funeral over a month ago and the family has taken over a month to get back to me to tell me their preferred images. I always tell families they don’t have to choose the images but they always want to. The family took their time because it was important to them and they wanted to make sure it was all good. Some images of attendees they didn't even know, "Who's that?" but they liked the face, the fact that their father knew people.

My photos are of ordinary people showing they grieve and are human. In a small way I think they strengthen families.